I’ve waited a long time to blog about this one! As I feel passionate about who I chose to come to my wedding. I wish I would have come across this image before I sent save the dates. It would have come in handy! I went through these questions in my head, but didn’t go through them in this order. I had a friend that I wanted to send an invitation to even though I hadn’t spoken to them in a year. They are important to me, but we ended on bad terms. I still didn’t want them missing this special day if we happened to rekindle the friendship later. Here, the big question comes in. Can you imagine that day without them? Like I can miss your birthday, but your wedding. NOPE. It’s different. I also had a bridesmaid who dropped out, but I still would have been devastated if she wasn’t at least at my wedding. As picky as we were with our guest list, Things still happened. Someone stole one of my husbands relatives phone that they left in the restroom, and people showed up for the food and alcohol but not to see me walk down the aisle. Wedding’s are just one thing you should never be late to. Never. The whole point is the couple getting wed! “WEDding.” I lied to my guests. I said 2:30pm but didn’t walk until like 3pm for this reason. Hispanics are the worst with time. I’m telling you. Anyways, as I was saying….We were VERY picky about who came to our wedding. We only invited our friends who we basically consider family. Life long friends! And the coworkers we did invite, were very close friends. Because your wedding is a VERY intimate moment. We opened our hearts in-front of everyone in our vows. The rest of the guests were family. Even if you don’t talk to the family member as much, it’s something about being blood that unites you. Overall our guest list was 250, we got 210 RSVP’s, and there were 230 people at our wedding! Maybe because I was on it. I contacted all the people who I knew wanted to come but didn’t RSVP. Then, I confirmed with those who did RSVP. The average cost for a wedding guest is well over $100 per head. So when you RSVP, you better be there. Now that I’ve learned my wedding etiquette, I’ve made sure to never make that mistake ever again. Don’t feel bad for restricting people from coming to your wedding. We had people who we hardly consider friends coming up to us saying “Don’t forget to invite me to the wedding.” We nicely explained that we were on a tight guest list because we are “Mexican.” Yes, we pulled that card. You can figure out your own nice explanation to give other than “We don’t know you like that.” You could just say that you are only inviting family or that it’s a small wedding. Remember it’s your wedding! Especially if you’re the one paying for it! Have it your way!
With My husband and I being hispanic (i’m half white and hispanic), we wanted to welcome our culture and show it at our wedding. So, I wanted Conchas (A Mexican bread with sugar on top) and Marrantitos (ginger bread in the shape of a pig, hence the name) at our wedding. At each table we had two boxes of typical Mexican wedding cookies that had our names and wedding date printed. My grandparents also had a surprise Mariachi band show up to play a few songs. This is another reason why we went with a barn theme where sombreros and boots were welcomed. I knew I wanted the Mexican Donuts but I didn’t want one more thing to worry about on the wedding day to get. I went to my cousin Valeria for the favor. She had offered her help to me way before the wedding, so I knew she wouldn’t mind. She offered to pay for them completely as her present to us. I was so thankful and happy. Her and I grew up together, played together, and share birthdays a day apart. Her doing this meant so much to me. I was her nurse at a very difficult moment in her life. It really touched my heart. Everyone went crazy over the Mexican donuts! Also in the center we had our cake a good friend of mine, Patty, made as our wedding day gift too! Since Diego and I fell in love at SFA and thats where our love story began, we chose the old SFA logo as the grooms cake! We had a ton of SFASU Alumni at our wedding, so it was also important for us to make them happy too and incorporate our history and love story.
You can incorporate your culture into your wedding without making it a completely typical Mexican wedding and such. We cared about making our guests happy within our comfort zone, but us as well.
I think the best way to make your guests happy is to incorporate the cultures typical desserts into a dessert bar. That way they have a piece of home at your wedding.
Ok, so It was originally a bit difficult to get my bridesmaids together for typical bachelorette activities. Well my girls are mainly laid back and weren’t too excited about strip clubs, going to NOLA and such. I came across In Home Paint Party. I thought how cool would it be to have painting in my home, in our pajamas! So, I approached the girls and every single one of them were up for it! The ideas started pouring in! I had wine, snacks, popcorn, and Domino’s Pizza. I got some cute tattoo’s off Etsy for us to wear, and gave them their wedding day Bridesmaids shirts. The painting instructor was super nice and fun. She helped us so much, and was very patient. I got to pick our painting and even got a free locket out of it from her! I definitely recommend doing something like this in your town! After we finished our paintings we played our icebreaker game and tied weenies with string around our waste’s. The goal was to get the weenie into the cup that was cut open at the bottom, and lift the cup off the ground. Let’s just say it was very hard and hilarious! After that, I put the movie Bridesmaid’s on! All in all, you can have a laid back bachelorette with your girls, and have just as much fun. (Although I still had my New Orleans Bach which is to come in a later post!)
Here are some more laid back bachelorette Ideas:
- Lingerie Bridesmaid Party – Each girl brings lingerie for the bride that reflects their own personality, and the bride has to guess who it’s from, along with other games.
- Western Theme- “Getting Hitched” Go out to a Saloon, or Rodeo! Everyone wear’s cowgirl boots!
- Glow Rave Theme – Glow sticks, blacklight’s, neon penis’s, with a candy accessory bar at home!
- Gold Bachelorette Theme- Gold balloons, gold rings, gold toasting flutes, gold confetti, and gold everything! Everyone wears sequins.
- Scavenger hunt: Set out a scavenger hunt across the town, leaving clues at local places, like Starbucks, the mall, Museum, Library, and getting the whole town to participate!
- Casino night- Why not head to vegas or Louisiana for some gambling?
- Kate Spade – Filled with stripes, and flowers, the decor will be amazing!
- Camping! – For the outdoorsy group!
- Animal Print Theme
- Slumber Party Theme
- 80’s Theme
- Disney night
- Bowling Night!
- Golfing Day!
- Renting a Limo- Drive around town in style! I love this!
- Paint Balling- Why not!
- Bachelorette Marathon
- Bachelorette Yoga
- Pole Dance Class – I did this! totally fun!!
- Bach Spa Day
- Poolside Party
- Karaoke Night
- Road Trip!
- Favorite Movie/Show Theme: Grey’s Anatomy, Fifty Shades of Grey, Great Gatsby, Etc.- pick your favorite movie/show and make it your theme, while you sip on wine and watch it!
- And BEYONCE theme! Beyonce clothes, style, quotes, and dance moves to fill the night! A Beyonce photo booth is a must! with some lemonade!